Fear has been said is to be the “killer of dreams”. In the fighting world it kills the fighter. A fighter, if he has any would lose not only the fight but the capabiliy of fighting. Usually fear interfere with the ability to actually execute any function, it freezes the person and any movement would come out erronous.
But What is fear, can we define what it is? For most people, fear is just when you see someone freeze, he is unable to move or he acts in a cowardly way surrendering or running. We can then determine that fear can indeed be seen through a behavior an act of surrendering. But looking under the hood what is really happeneing, what produces such effect, that the person crumbles so badly. There is one evident perspective that shines out: They value there own safety at all cost and would do anything to protect in order to survive. Well that type person can never be a fighter, he could learn a couple of techniques and execute them but he will never have the ability to fight, because he values his well being more than anything and above anything.
EGO
Now there is that, Ego, the ultimate illusion, Having Ego is like pretending you have a Ferrari when you have a renault, but acting like you have a Ferrari.
Basically it’s acting like you are the best when you are not doing enough to be the best. This is another fear that lurks in people, what if what if what if. What if what ? he hits me and i get knocked out he says, i am not afraid of the hit but what would they say about me.
This is the most awful fear, living the illusion of being something that you are not up to expectations of others.
Ego doesn’t allow people to take risks in the fear of losing status. Status of being admired or thought of as great.
EGO DEATH
So now how do we become fighters, well simple as that …let go of ego and think of not your well being but of the greater sense of self, of pushing over obstacle of being a man , win lose get hit or not get hit it does not matter, it matters your skills your capability of growing. From here comes the motto ” leave your ego outside” be humble learn don’t overact be real. Learn where you stand and develop on your skilsl to grow.. losing and winning acting wrong thinking in the egostic mindset destroys you, you are man no more and no less..
CONFIDENCE WORKS
Now we come to Confidence,, Everyone tells you be confident act confident and you will be confident. Let’s break things down, the concept of act Confident first…..
So acting Confidence usually creates a shell, yes a shell.. A shell meaning people interpert that a person that walks in a certain way, talks in a certain way must have to be competent. Basically you are manipulating the perception of other people to think of you as more important or better or more proficient and in the process of doing that you manipulate your belief and that is where things just get entangled.. Developing a good public image and a way to see yourself confident is good, most situation in life would require that acting that way could give you more value from people that would see you better and befriend. But in fighting it become dangerous, the act confident without killing the Ego and working on the self is a death penalty, you are only entrapping yourself for a bigger loss a more dangerous one.
ACT, ACT BY AND ACCEPT
So here we have determined three facts, ACTING confident is good in a way, but ACTING BY is more important and more build real confidence, but what about accept.. Accept that you will always be lacking and not be perfect and seek to fill those holes, don’t take loss and wins as you that is bad because you might be succesful and in flow at one day but then on another you fall short and as so, you need to keep developing your skills that are lacking and not you.
Last but not least, understand that there is an end for all things don’t live by standards live by what makes you best,because that is where real value lies.
